Can You Tell If You Are Cumming, Squirting, Ejaculating, or Orgasming?

Can You Tell If You Are Cumming, Squirting, Ejaculating, or Orgasming?

I hate to jump out of the gate with this, but I’m quite over sexually unsatisfied older men and unsatisfied older women scientists sharing their biased and limited notes on the female body, female orgasms, female ejaculation and squirting. This is part of the reason all of it remains a confusing unsolved mystery. It’s hard to talk about something you don’t see, can’t touch, or have never experienced. 


I feel empowered to speak on it because I have experienced all of it! I’ve felt it, tasted it, touched it, smelled it, and looked at it under a microscope! I will also remind you that I am no scientist and I didn’t learn about my body from European men, I learned from my experiences and guidance from ancestors. 


When I was a young teenager I decided that I wanted to lose my virginity and who I wanted to lose it with, I had it all laid out. After being in leadership programs and adolescent pregnancy prevention classes I felt educated and ready at a young age. When it was time I laid on the kitchen floor staring at the ceiling fan the whole time. I had complete mental silence as I drifted off into cosmic bliss while he passionately warmed up my vulva with his mouth. 


Then he inserted himself inside of me, I loved the feeling and loved the sensations even more. I found myself chasing this sexual high for years chasing the Ultimate Orgasm. Year after year, I was cumming, squirting and even ejaculating but was still searching for something MORE, that was going to really knock my socks off. 



As a previous sex blogger, I thought that MORE was impossible and I had given up on seeking for that fulfillment in the external world, I started to find clarity as I dived deeper into my mental suffering and bodily trauma. Once I started to chip away at every toxic trait in my body I started to attract people who were working just as hard to be their Highest Self. 


Basking in this vibration allowed me to attract a man with my heart and soul and not with my body or mind. I allowed myself to be completely open, vulnerable and fully trust and respect him as a man. It sounds simple but with all the conditioning I had gone through it made it difficult for me to fully trust, respect and love a man unconditionally. He took me to the MORE I had been seeking my whole life. 


Now I’m experiencing orgasmic releases, orgasmic climaxes and orgasmic transcendence. I have put in the field research and the mental lab work which is why I am here to share my understanding in hopes that this will bring you clarity and help you discover the full pleasure spectrum of your sexuality so that you can communicate more clearly with your partner about your sexual needs and desires. 


Be sure to share this blog post on your social media or text to a friend to help spread this useful information. There are so many women who do not know this yet or don’t fully understand it. I wish for us all to experience the pleasure we deserve.


Namasté 


Cumming - The Mind


When you are cumming you are releasing the built up mental pleasures and desires. Cumming only happens through the cooperation of your mind. If your mind is not engaged your arousal fluids will struggle coming out to play. Your level of wetness is determined by how engaged and focused your mind is. If it is distracted you will experience dryness or lack of desire which will block you from cumming. Arousal fluids are secretions produced by the Bartholin glands located near your labias genetically placed to help the penis enter the vaginal opening with ease and comfort in order to reproduce. You also release fluid from inside your vaginal opening along your walls. Your vaginal secretions can be mixed with your cervical fluids which is why the consistency of cum can vary per person. Sometimes it’s thick, opal, and creamy, other times it may be silky, clear and smooth. It all depends on which phase of your menstrual cycle you are in. 


After you cum you usually feel depleted, sleepy or you may even want to be distant from your partner to regather yourself. Your cum carries a genetic imprint that is physically and energetically passed from your secretions into your partner's body. Which is why you see some couples who begin to look alike, act alike, or even begin to think alike. If you are getting nutted in, you are taking in bits and pieces of their DNA. Sounds weird, but true. If you’ve ever felt a random feeling or emotion come over you that doesn’t belong to you, take a look at who you're exchanging sexual energy with. 


When you cum, it creates a clinginess within us because it’s a great sensation and we want to hold on to things that make us feel good ultimately leading to greediness. All vibrations that keep us repeatedly in unhealthy relationships. So choose your partners wisely, fight harder to learn to love one another, figure out ways to trust deeper and allow the beauty in you to see the beauty in them. 


Your cum is released through your vaginal opening.

If you are giving head to a vulva and feel juices coming from the clitoris, you are either feeling ejaculation or squirt from the urethra or Skene's or cum from the vaginal opening. There is no hole on the clit. 


You do not need an emotional or spiritual connection in order to cum. All you need is physical attraction, stimulation to your clitoris or vulva and sensual thoughts.

However, the stronger your mental focus in that moment and physical arousal toward your partner, the stronger, and beautiful your cum is going to be. Slippery, or creamy magic.

 

Squirting - The Desire


When you squirt, fluid is first gathered from your water intake supply then it is built up in your bladder. During foreplay and anticipation the sexual desire is gathered by your sexual energy and built up in the Skene’s Gland. The diluted urine and ejaculate fluid is then released from the bladder and Skene's Gland and then expelled through the urethral opening during sexual arousal and/or stimulation. The more sexual energy you have the more your squirt will consist of ejaculate fluid, the less amount of sexual arousal energy built up the more watery the squirt will be.


It is wise to pee before and after sex to clear the passageway and allow your body to relax enough to naturally squirt ejaculate fluids and not just let pee flow out due to incontinence issues or pushing. Squirting is normally an involuntary act, not something you force out. It's normally colorless, odorless and you can’t always see yourself squirting, because it isn’t always projecting all the way across the bedroom like in porn. However you will definitely see the effects of it afterward on your sheets or feel the splashes from it during. 


Squirting feels just like it would if you were holding your pee all day and finally got to relieve yourself. That feeling of relief is what squirting feels like. It can be subtle or it can be extremely sensational. The act of squirting will only be released if your body is relaxed. Too much tension, or pressure can prevent you from squirting. The desire comes from your connection to your partner and how safe and grounded you feel with them. If you are focusing too much on squirting, it simply won’t happen.


Squirt is released through the urethral opening.


You do not need a spiritual connection in order to squirt. All you need is a partner that helps you fully relax, a comfortable environment, confidence, adequate water intake, deep penetration or focused clitoral attention with the tongue or finger.


Female Ejaculation - The Body


When your body is so aroused it's creating a wild chemical cocktail of a bunch of different hormones. The love hormone, the happy hormone, fight or flight, you name it. Your body is capable of creating a fluid Instead of your squirt containing solely urea and creatinine – (the key chemical element of pee) - it contains PSA which is the prostate-specific antigen also found in the cum of male semen, produced in the Skene's gland (some may call the female prostate). To release your ejaculate fluid your sacral chakra must be unblocked and thriving. Meaning you must be comfortable within the full spectrum of your sexuality, utilize your creativity, dance more freely and connect with your pleasure more. Allow your body to build up the ejaculate fluid by nurturing and loving on your body and loving from your heart, not being overly critical of yourself or others. That’s why female ejaculate nectar tends to be sweet. 


Female ejaculate is released through the urethral opening. Some women have found an additional opening connected to the Skene’s Gland located slightly below their urethral opening and ejaculate fluid can trickle out of there as well during sex, in a way similar to pre-cum for men which is considered leaking. 


It’s unknown what is needed in order to ejaculate and if all women are capable. As of now it is referenced that 69% of women can ejaculate. G-Spot stimulation gets things going for sure. Learn about the A and P spot in a later post!


Female Ejaculation + Cumming = Leaking - The Comfort


When you ejaculate and cum at the same time you experience a beautiful, constant, slow leak that flows out harmoniously. The feeling is relaxing, almost like all the air in your body is being deflated and your body is sinking into the ground beneath you. The leaking concoction is warm and flows like aloe vera gel. The combo of ejaculating and cumming at the same time is like hitting multiple buttons on a controller for a Mortal Combat move, you unlock “special moves”, a special concoction created by your intimate encounter. 


Leaking is released through your vaginal opening, urethral opening and Skene’s Gland opening.


Squirting + Ejaculation = Gushing - The Excitement

The cool thing about the woman’s body is that it is capable of all things, which means we can squirt and ejaculate at the same time! Just a quick reminder though. SQUIRT IS NOT EJACULATION. However your ejaculation can squirt! When you do both at the same time it creates a gushing feeling during arousal. Your bladder will fill up with the supply you created through your water intake; and your Skene's gland is built up with an ejaculate fluid containing PSA antigens. When gushing during sex the squirt is going to contain the diluted fluid from your bladder containing urea and creatine and it's going to combine like a hurricane by crashing into your ejaculate fluid. Both fluids are trying to escape out of the tiny urethral opening causing an intense gush. Since it all passes through the urethra where urine also passes through, it can contain larger traces of urea and creatinine.

You must have a level of excitement in order to gush. Excitement as in fully mentally, physically, and emotionally aroused. You are relaxed, you feel safe, and you are really into your partner physically, mentally, and spiritually. This allows your body to open up more and more. The more your body surrenders the closer you get to the Big O.

Gushing is released like a broken fire hydrant through the urethral opening. However if you are cumming at the same time that is the Ultimate Gush that will have arousal fluids splashing from out of the vaginal opening.

Orgasm/Climax - The Heart

Once you have connected with your partner on a physical, emotional, mental and spiritual level, you unlock your access into the opportunity of having an orgasm. An orgasm is the climax you receive from sexual excitement. By relaxing your body completely, concentrating your mind and enjoying the intimate journey. By doing this you build up the orgasmic energy within your body needed to climax. If your focus is on the destination, the finale, the nut then you’re not focusing on building up the sexual excitement by being present. 


An orgasm is a harmonious dance with your partner, you both are in sync and have chosen one another with your hearts. During an orgasm you may feel high as if on psychedelics, you may experience shaking, quivering, stomach cramping, crying or hysterical laughter. Whatever you experience, surrender into the feeling and allow it to go deeper and longer. Orgasms vary per person and can be weak or strong, wavy or smooth, don’t overthink it, just be. 


The orgasm is experienced energetically, and doesn’t necessarily have to be released outside of the body.


You do not need stimulation in order to orgasm. You can have a mental, clitoral, vaginal and an erogenous zone orgasm (amongst many more). 

You must have an emotional and spiritual connection to your partner and a loving relationship with yourself. When you are nurtured properly by yourself you open the gates for someone else to do the same. When you are being nurtured to your liking you open up more and that makes your body relax more.

Check out our FREE Orgasmic Language Quiz to discover what your body, mind, heart and soul needs in order to reach such a blissful release. Click image below to go to quiz.

Orgasm + Cumming = Releasing - The Soul

When you orgasm and cum at the same time you have connected with your partner on a spiritual level and that energetic exchange allows you to release emotions through your climax, manifest, give energy to your partner, take energy from your partner, communicate telepathically, feel each other’s energy and get rid of pent up stress.

A saying I just made up right now is “Cumming is a state of doing while releasing is a state of being.” When you can just be, and not overthink, not be self critical, not wonder, not wish, just lie back and release control you’ll be able to release through your cum. 


Releasing is released through your vaginal opening and energetically. 


Orgasm + Cumming + Ejaculation = Ultimate Orgasm - The Complete Surrender



When you have surrendered completely into trust of your partner, trust in your Highest Self, trust in The Universe, trust in God then you have made the complete surrender. When you have gotten there within, you can create a transcendent experience during intimacy bringing you higher in the levels of Consciousness. 


The complete surrender happens cosmically when two people become one in the present moment by not allowing past conditioning or trauma to impact them in that moment. Their mind is clear and concentrated. They aren’t sexually mixing with low vibrational energies. They share the same desires. Then you basically create magic at this point. 


Since I still have moments where I forget my magnificence and fall back into conditioned ways I don’t always get to experience the Ultimate Orgasms, but once I do the proper shadow work I begin to let my body feel safe enough to fully surrender and trust again. 


I hope that wherever you are along the sexuality spectrum and your healing journey, that you are being kind and patient with yourself. Make time for yourself and practice loving more from the heart and not with conditions from your mind.

With gratitude,

Kay Jones

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Comments

  • Posted by Airreanna on

    I love this article 🙌🏽

  • Posted by Christy D on

    My fiancée sent me this and I absolutely enjoyed reading this. It definitely makes sense why we are able to achieve certain certain of pleasurable moments with some people and not with others. It all just makes sense. Thank you for this article and I look forward to reading more!

  • Posted by Teya on

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