The content of this blog post randomly spilled from my fingertips to the pen onto the papers of my journal. It came to me so effortlessly, and it was the first time in a while where my creative energy flowed without some kind of prompt. I felt compelled to share these words with you all. It may seem like this post has nothing to do with SheOrgasms, sexual wellness, or the brand in which I try to uphold; but I promise it will come full circle.
"If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the now." -Lao Tzu
I know we can all admit to having moments where we find ourselves dwelling in the past or worrying about the future. I then realize that my entire mood is now disturbed because I'm not being present. Now, I'm a bit on edge for this conversation or I'm easily distracted and unable to focus on a task, my nerves are bad, I'm easily annoyed or agitated. If I just shift my attention to the now, I can then find true peace.
Take a moment to step out of your own body and observe yourself.
Are you truthfully being present with this person, with this task, with this phone call, etc.? It's not an easy task, I know. I struggle often, but what I can do is recognize when I'm not being present. Bring myself back to the moment and relax.
Showing up and making time for people no longer automatically marks you as present. Are you constantly checking your phone? Are you continuously thinking about your response? Are you stuck in a trance thinking about the past? Are you distracted by your background? Are you comparing yourself to them? If you answered yes to any one of those, you are not being kind or giving people the respect they deserve. You both set time aside to be there, so why not BE THERE and maximize that time?
If we miss the moment, we miss the clues. If we're not present we won't hear what's really meant for us to hear. It could be a word that could spark and idea or reminder, or a signal that could trigger your intuition, even a warning sign. But in order for us to hear what the universe is trying to tell us or show us WE MUST BE ALL THERE.
You'd be amazed at how much of your true self you find that is beyond the chatters of your mind. A wise person (unsure of whom) said "The magic in this world seems to work in the whispers and small kindnesses." So pay attention, be awake, fully alive, and fully aware.
Unfortunately, we all think way too much - seek too much and want too much; instead of appreciating the beauty of just being.
Have you noticed that during sex you may start overthinking because you want to have multiple orgasms, you want to squirt, you want to make sure your partner is enjoying you, your mind can be racing with questions, concerns or even self doubt. Then in return you may start to dry up, you start blocking your orgasms, you may start to get uncomfortable.
SheOrgasms won't help you be present, but it may help with your focus. Use that focus to pay attention to your breathing, scan your body from top to bottom and recognize the sensations you're feeling. It will help you be more present and receive the pleasure blessings you deserve.
No matter where you are, be all there.